Love. It evokes many emotions, thoughts, feelings, and confusion among many of us. The dictionary gives this definition:
Love [luhv] noun
1. a profound tender, passionate affection for another person
2.a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child or friend
That’s what you see and that is what you come to believe love is. But as a believer, I wonder if that’s all love is. I wonder if that definition of love would have be enough for Jesus Christ to do what He did for us that day on Calvary especially considering how we treated Him. I wonder if I don’t feel this profound tender and passionate affection for someone, am I still to love them? I wonder many things about love and on some days I give up on love because I know sometimes it hurts. I know that love can be flawed, it’s painful, tough, it’s imperfect, it lies and breaks apart everything. That’s how I see love. That’s how I saw love. Then I remembered whose I am. I remember who speaks to me of love when I forget to love myself and even on the days when I believe that I don’t deserve love. My Abba. My Father. My Creator. And that’s when He reminds what love is. He gives me a new definition. He says my child, “I am love.” So with that, I begin to read the famous 1 Corinthians 13 in different light. I take my time to unpack each thing that my Father says love is. I read, I listen and I meditate because I am seeing that this is freedom. These words He gives us, this bible He has gifted us is freedom- It’s light in the darkness. It’s comfort in the rain. And its grace and love given so freely, no strings attached and it’s that love that keeps me. It’s that love that He wants us to know and understand. So these next few weeks I will be learning and seeking the truth of what love is the way our Abba wants us to know it. I pray you come on this journey with me as I seek to understand a truth many of us do not fully grasp. The first is Love is patient (1 Corinthians 13:4).
Patience is define again in the dictionary as:
1.the ability to bear of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like
2.an ability or willingness to suppress relentless or annoyance when confronted with delay
How would you define patience? What makes you impatient? Have you ever heard of patience being something to describe what love is? These are questions I’ve asked myself. And truth be told, outside of the bible, I have never been told that love is patient. I have never seen love being patient. For me, I get impatient when things are not going right. When I become frustrated because I didn’t get my way, when my time is being wasted, or someone or something is not living up to this perfect expectation I have. Patience is something many of us struggle. Some people are more patient than others. Now for those who just hide their impatient nature or their frustration by being passive aggressive, I am not talking about you because that is still not okay. Even I’ve been guilty of that. When we become impatient we become frustrated, irritable, annoyed, and sometimes even angry. And its the actions that we take because of those feeling that are sinful and do not please God. Love is understanding and realizing that our need for perfection is unrealistic because perfection only exist in God. It does not exist in man at all. Love being patient is understanding that you are not perfect and that the people you are called to love are not perfect either. It’s taking a deep breathe, saying a prayer and asking God to help you when you become frustrated with someone. It is not blowing up and making them feel bad about themselves. It’s meeting that person where they are, expressing to them how you feel, and finding a solution. Love being patient is sometimes you being the bigger person even if you don’t think you were in the wrong. And like I said, we are not perfect, so yes there will be moments where showing that love is patient is hard. But for those moment that you fail. For those moments where how God wants you to love is hard and something you throw out the window and you find your love becoming a harsh and hurtful thing, know this: it’s okay. Take a deep, seek forgiveness from our Father, forgive yourself and make it right. Make things right with your brother or your sister even if they were in the wrong but you need do it.. You do it not just because God requires that of you but also because you know you have been there before and you remember the seasons when all you wanted was for someone’s love to be patient with you.